What if You Want Out?

Know How to Get Out of Teen Dating Violence

  • Alert the school counselor or security officer.
  • Avoid being alone at school, your job, on the way to and from places.
  • Do not meet your partner alone. Do not let him or her in your home or car when you are alone.
  • Keep a daily log of the abuse.
  • Plan and rehearse what you would do if your partner became abusive.
  • Tell your parents, a friend, a counselor, a clergyman, or someone else whom you trust and who can help. The more isolated you are from friends and family, the more control the abuser has over you.
  • Tell someone where you are going and when you plan to be back.

Being a Friend to a Victim of Abuse

Most teens talk to other teens about their problems. If a friend tells you he or she is being victimized, here are some suggestions on how you can help.

  • Call the police if you witness an assault. Tell an adult - a school principal, parent, guidance counselor.
  • Encourage them to confide in a trusted adult. Talk to a trusted adult if you believe the situation is getting worse. Offer to go with them for help.
  • Express your concerns. Tell your friend you're worried. Support, don't judge.
  • If you notice a friend is in an abusive relationship, don't ignore signs of abuse. Talk to your friend.
  • Point out your friend's strengths - many people in abusive relationships are no longer capable of seeing their own abilities and gifts.
  • Never put yourself in a dangerous situation with the victim's partner. Don't be a mediator.